Ack, just spent way more time that I'd planned to on
Goodreads (please join the site and be my friend!) Have much0 work to do for classes (well, mucho for the timespan, I s'pose), some of which involves going into the City.
My Halloween — thank you for asking — consisted of seeing a movie, getting a late din-din in Chinatown and hanging out by the East River for a bit, in between the Brooklyn and Manhattan Bridges. It's pretty spectacular at night.
Here's why: In a quite unexpected turn of events, a boy I'd had what I thought to be a successful first date with back in January, but who'd given me a bit of a runaround about seeing each other again at the time, contacted me on OkC and asked if I wanted to hang out again. Since we had a good time the first time and I felt like we connected, I accepted. I felt very comfortable around him, and there was lots of physical closeness and touching (not publicly inappropriate touching, it was too cold for that) but there wasn't really a spark. He was still interesting to talk to, but I just didn't really feel a connection. Maybe it was the lack of alcohol.
Alas, not even a
bounce-off-the-camera, need-a-replay-to-be-sure homer for me. Not even a kiss. We did touch cheeks, when we met and parted, in a way that reminded me of Arthur nuzzling Ruth on
Six Feet Under. I was hoping there'd be more, because I remembered being fairly attracted to him during our brief first date, but for some reason, I was not feeling him last night. I think it has to do with his scent. It wasn't exactly offensive (something like damp wool, maybe?), it just wasn't doing it for me.
He asked several times if I wanted to go home with him. I told him I had a lot of work to do in the morning (which is true, despite the laziness that's set in). He left me a block from his apartment, because it'd started to rain and he didn't have an umbrella. I said I'd feel bad if he got soaked walking me to the subway (meanwhile the rain stopped about 2 minutes later), and he took that to mean he could just point me in the right direction and send me on my way, to wander the streets of an unfamiliar neighborhood at 1am, on Halloween. I found the subway I needed and made it back to Port Authority with ample time before the last bus.
I'm not the damsel-in-distress, need-a-big-strong-man-to-protect-me type. However, I do appreciate a bit of chivalry when it's called for. In this case, I feel he should have insisted on walking me, especially since the subway was about 10 minutes away. Maybe I should have been explicit; "I'd really prefer it if you walked with me, at least until we hit Bowery." Maybe it's just another example of me being unable to express what I need/want from people for fear I'll seem demanding and needy. But I'd like this sort of thing to come naturally, voluntarily, organically. I guess some guys have it and others don't? Some guys will put their coats down on a movie theater seat, knowing there's gum on it, just so a girl (who's just a friend) can sit without getting gum on herself. Ry used to walk me half the five block distance between our apartments whenever I visited him late. And most guys — hell, most people I'd hang out with — in similar situations would at least ask me to text them when I got home.